If you’re considering the options available for an elderly parent or relative, you’ll no about be exploring all avenues in great detail.
A care home isn’t the first option and it’s one which really comes as a last resort. Many elderly people prefer to stay in their own homes for as long as possible and maintain as much independence as possible. Of course, by doing this, they’re also maintaining their dignity and quality of life.
For some people, a care home is a wonderful choice, one which allows them to live in safety, having all their needs met, in a comfortable place with people around them who they can socialise with all day long. For some elderly people, this is an option they are extremely happy with. However, this isn’t the case for everyone and if you have an elderly relative who wants to remain in their home, but you’re worried about their health and safety, a live in carer could be something you might want to think about.
As the name suggests, a live in carer lives in the home with your elderly relative and they provide support and care for daily activities. This could include (but not limited to):
It is possible to have a carer who doesn’t live in the home and simply visits on a set number of days, with a contracted number of hours. In many cases, this is enough, however in some cases it won’t be. If you do not want your relative to go into a care home, or they do not want to go themselves, then a live in carer could be the ideal alternative option.
A live in carer gives you peace of mind because you know that someone is there most of the time, and you can focus on spending time together making quality memories. Of course, your live in carer will not work 24/7 and will have a set number of hours, with time off for themselves. A person who has a live in carer is not likely to need around the clock care, and the hours when your carer works can be arrange according to the times of day when your relative needs the most help and assistance.
Whilst ‘burden’ is certainly not the right word, there is a certain amount of guilt or burden-like feelings for relatives of elderly people. Of course, the elderly relative isn’t a burden at all, but the guilt which their relatives feel for not being able to be there around the clock is a burden.
The truth is that everyone lives busy lives these days and you may have a family of your own, small children, a house to run and a busy career. You may not be able to be there for your relative as much as they need you to be, and it’s quite likely hat they don’t want you there all the time either!
The pressure of caring for an elderly relative can be exhausting and overwhelming and it can cause the relationship between the two of you to become eroded. When you opt for a live in carer, this isn’t the case, because you can spend time doing things together that you both enjoy, and the memories you have will be high quality and not full of stress and worry.
It will literally feel like a weight has been lifted from both your shoulders and the shoulders of your elderly relative.
It’s impossible to give a firm amount for you to work on, because it depends on a number of different variables. This can include the part of the country you live in, the specific needs for your relative, how much care they require, the types of care they need, how many hours you need the carer to work, etc. These variables make it impossible to give you a definite number, but we can give you a guideline price to work on.
For 24 hour care, i.e. a live in carer, costs can range between £800 – £1800 per week, covering the agency costs, the salary of your carer, etc. For this reason, it’s important to know your specific needs and preferences when you start to look for a live in carer. Knowing your specifics will mean you can identify a fair price far more easily.
Of course, it goes without saying that you need to explore all options before deciding that a live in carer is the right one, and you also need to be 100% sure that your elderly relative is happy with their choice. Having someone living in their home can be upsetting and unsettling for some people, and it means choosing the right type of personality also. You need to find someone who gels with your elderly relative, someone who has the same sense of humour, so they can get along well. When this happens, your elderly relative will find a sense of companionship, something which they might be struggling to find due to their current care needs.
Before making any decision, be sure to explore every option available to you and discuss everything carefully. A live in carer however is a great choice for any elderly person who doesn’t want to leave their home and wants to remain as independent as they can possibly be, whilst also ensuring that their health and wellbeing needs are taken care of to the highest quality.
For many people, a live in carer is the ideal option, and one which suits them very well indeed. Despite that, it all comes down to choosing the right type of person for the role, not only in terms of experience and qualifications, but also in terms of their personality and sense of humour.